It's been a while...

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It's been a while.
It's been hard. 

Mother's Day is tomorrow. And today I came across this poem.

I don't know who wrote it. It reads:

Isn't It Cruel

If I had one hundred lives to live,
I would want to live
every one of them with you.

And isn't it cruel,
isn't it cruel,
that the only one I get -

I have to live
without
you.


There's so much unfairness when it comes to being an adoptee. So much loss.

That's all I got for now.

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